According to
http://www.thefreedictionary.com/ , sidelined = To remove or keep from active participation.
How many of us have been sidelined in our life? I believe the better question would be how many times have we been sidelined in our life?
Remember how it felt to be folding your arms and standing at the side of the field while your more physical friends got picked for the game?
Or when you were sitting alone at a corner with your own Barbie while other girls were combing the hair of each others' Barbies and went giggling away?
Throughout our life, we're bound to be in situations where we get left out or shoved to the side. Sometimes we might act like it doesn't matter when in reality we're screaming inside our heart asking ourselves WHY ME!!?!
Being sidelined where relationship and emotion's concerned sucks just as much if not even more than the usual stuffs. I've grouped them into 5 levels of Heartbreaking-ness.
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1st Level - Weak Heartbreak
- Usually applies to normal fans of a famous person. Its always you (the fan) who notice the famous person and he/she might (or never will) notice that you even exist!
2nd Level - Mild Heartbreak
- A special category for those fanatic fans out there who pours a lot of energy over their obsession over certain famous person. People in this stage would probably be committee members of certain famour person's fan club or online forum. The truth is........ those famous people might not even remember your name at the end of the day. :)
3rd Level - Serious Heartbreak
- Now, onto a more serious level. :P For you singles out there, yeah you, think of that someone you are interested in. Get a good mental image of that person. Now close your eyes. ............... Then open them! (DUH! How're you gonna read what's next with your eyes closed!! Have you tried confessing to that person? If you have not, afraid to face the rejection that follows right after? I bet being rejected and sidelined by someone you're interested in is a serious heartbreak for most people. Makes you think what's wrong with you. Why sidelined? Well, it's gonna be awkward for you and that person after this, thus he/she will most probably try his/her best to sideline you from his/her life. Rejection's not as half bad unless you get to know that the person is gonna block you out after.
4th Level - Super Heartbreak
- What's worse than being rejected by someone you like? I know! Being rejected (dumped) by someone you like whom you've been together with in a relationship! Not everyone is capable of being friends after a relationship ends. Even if you succeed in maintaining a friendship, it'll not be the same. After spending time together with someone and getting to be so close to the other person, its hard to face the sudden distance between the both of you. Its like telling you that the woman who has always been taking care of you since you were young is not your birth mother. You were so closed, and suddenly, BAM! Empty! Scary how fast things change! What you're familiar with turns into history and the person whom you usually share things with, and lean against turns into a stranger.
5th Level - "I'd Rather Be In Hell" Heartbreak!
- I personally find this situation to be rather suited as a level 5 heartbreak than that of level 4. Have someone you're interested in? But that person's unavailable or attached. But the problem is you still meet that person and his/her partner or even hear news and stuffs about them. Hahaha. Its bad enough to have the person rejecting you, but it stings even more when you get to know that he/she is with another person. How you wish its you in the place of the partner. xD I've thought of a "I rather be in hell" moment for this situation too. Imagine yourself having dinner with your love interest... with his/her partner..... You guys were chatting... TeeHee... No biggie.. Then the food comes. You're feeding yourself while opposite of you, they were feeding each other.. NO BIGGIE~ Dessert time! Ice-cream! Your favourite! They were feeding each other again.. Nothing you haven't already seen. Then they have to put their lips together in front of you. Now, you would rather be in hell! HAH!
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Keep finding yourself asking "When is it gonna happen to me"?
Unfortunately to some, they might ask that question for a very long time.
This post might not bring much meaning, I am in this rare mood to write. And I wrote. xD
Well, good luck to you guys if you're still waiting for that someone to share your life with! :)
PS: I do not own this picture. Credit to whoever that owns it. Thanks! :)
